There are many things in this world that I will fail to understand, no matter the effort I put into it. Who shot JFK, advanced mathematics, and women are chief among these conundrums. There is, however, one thing that I have learned in recent months that I thought I would never fully understand. It is something that we all go through and yet no one can really handle it with any amount of grace in my estimation. What I speak of my friends, is the dreaded break up. Everyone has gone through this hell. They have bad mouthed their ex’s, called friends to vent, drank themselves stupid, and have generally acted and thought in an irrational manner.
I believe the break up is especially tough for people of my generation. We grew up with Corey Matthews and Topanaga Lawrence, Zack Morris and Kelly Capowski, even Laura Winslow married Steve Urkel. Everything always had a happy ending.
We never saw a brutal breakup and the scars that it leaves. We never saw a couple breakup and go through the drastic measures of trying to bring their ex down as many pegs as possible. We never saw anyone cheat on their significant other ether because they were chemically imbalanced, couldn’t resist temptation, or were simply bored with the person they were with. These are all extremely harsh realities. My feeling is the breakup itself is not overly difficult, but the ensuing 2-3 months after its all said and done is the most arduous.
I believe the break up is especially tough for people of my generation. We grew up with Corey Matthews and Topanaga Lawrence, Zack Morris and Kelly Capowski, even Laura Winslow married Steve Urkel. Everything always had a happy ending.
We never saw a brutal breakup and the scars that it leaves. We never saw a couple breakup and go through the drastic measures of trying to bring their ex down as many pegs as possible. We never saw anyone cheat on their significant other ether because they were chemically imbalanced, couldn’t resist temptation, or were simply bored with the person they were with. These are all extremely harsh realities. My feeling is the breakup itself is not overly difficult, but the ensuing 2-3 months after its all said and done is the most arduous.
There is the worry that the ex has found someone else that they don’t think of you like you still think of them and the worry that whoever they are seeing is a lot “better” than you are. Today’s technological advances do not help this matter in the slightest. Facebook, Myspace and AIM are just a few of the tools that have allowed people to know close to anything they want about another person. It is quite possible to have something rubbed in your face through 7 different avenues. Heaven for bid, you should see each other out, live and in person.
What makes the aftermath of a breakup difficult is the mere fact that a male thinks through 3 different means. The first of which is the head (which is attached to the shoulders). Admittedly, this is the method in which we use the least. However it is the most sensible, intelligent, and practical of the trio. The problem lies within this triumvirate. The heart and the “other head” tend to intercept any ideas the brain might have. It is through these two means that we act unreasonably. The heart is essentially a big baby that needs to be coddled and cared for. The only way that hunger is satisfied is by having someone to be with. After the breakup has occurred, the heart will cause people to do the stupidest of things that seem like a good idea at the time to get someone back. No matter how much the brain will try to override the matter, the heart usually wins out and that’s what causes misery. Because you are alone you are constantly thinking of what your ex is doing.
The end always makes people think of the beginning. This happens so much that it clouds people’s memories of why things did not work out in the first place. For whatever reason we erase the bad memories and immediately think of everything that was good, no matter how trivial or minimal the good times were. Even if you get a “rebound person” chances are that was conjured up by the penis. And by labeling someone a rebound, you are still yearning for your ex. Lastly, if you hook up with the rebound, you mine as well stop at CVS and pick up a Valtrex prescription. Let’s face it guys our dicks will never be credited for being the brains behind curing cancer.
So what does all this mean? Is there a magical remedy for being able to “get over” someone any faster? No, absolutely not. To use a cliché, time heals all wounds. Nothing could be more true. Breakups happen to everyone. And there may be one or two that will leave an indelible mark on your life. Even the great Vincent Chase had trouble thinking properly after his breakup with Mandy Moore in Entourage, Brad and Jen ended, and so to did Ben and J-Lo.
The end always makes people think of the beginning. This happens so much that it clouds people’s memories of why things did not work out in the first place. For whatever reason we erase the bad memories and immediately think of everything that was good, no matter how trivial or minimal the good times were. Even if you get a “rebound person” chances are that was conjured up by the penis. And by labeling someone a rebound, you are still yearning for your ex. Lastly, if you hook up with the rebound, you mine as well stop at CVS and pick up a Valtrex prescription. Let’s face it guys our dicks will never be credited for being the brains behind curing cancer.
So what does all this mean? Is there a magical remedy for being able to “get over” someone any faster? No, absolutely not. To use a cliché, time heals all wounds. Nothing could be more true. Breakups happen to everyone. And there may be one or two that will leave an indelible mark on your life. Even the great Vincent Chase had trouble thinking properly after his breakup with Mandy Moore in Entourage, Brad and Jen ended, and so to did Ben and J-Lo.
The bottom line is everyone goes through a breakup and it sucks. Fall back on your friends, because (wait for it) that’s what friends are for. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off and remember chances are you learned something from it and learning never hurt anybody.
-Hustle
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